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Negative Events Aren't Personal, Permanent or Pervasive

"Tough times never last but tough people do." Robert Schuller


I've been in a rut. I've felt marred in my pain and in negative events. Each day I tell myself it will be better, but it hasn't been. So I decided to read Option B by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant to try to boost my resiliency skills. A quote really stuck with me.

Sheryl Sandberg states

"We plant the seed of resilience in the way we process negative events. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that three P's can stunt recovery;

1) Personalization - the belief they are at fault,

2) Pervasiveness - the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life, and

3) Permanence - the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last forever."


I wrote the three P's on a note card. Every time I felt my body telling me things were devastating I tried to apply one of these P's and remember that what was happening to me wasn't personal, pervasive or permanent.

Identifying that negative events aren't personal, pervasive or permanent will not make the sun shine over everything, but it may help lift the darkness a little so you can see the sun again.

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