"Always remember your focus determines your reality." George Lucas
We can’t control what happens to us but we can choose and control what we pay attention to. Our brain has a negativity bias and when we focus on the negative we are more likely to find data to support the negative, We are more likely to feel like a victim. Once we feel like a victim, we start to feel helpless, like we have no control over our lives. It doesn’t take very long to go from helpless to hopeless. This happened to me when I had too many negative events happen to me all at once. I felt like I was in a computer game, and the bad guy kept hitting me repeatedly, and I had no shields or method to stop it so I was continually taking damage. Except it wasn’t a computer game. My dog died. Wham! My mom was sick. Pow! Your mom died! Whack! Your dad is ill. Crash! Your son was hurt. Bang! You broke your ankle. Wham! And you are in so, so much pain. Kapow!! By changing your focus, you can take control of your life even if you can't change your circumstances. To live a positive and happy life, concentrate on everything you are thankful for and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. For instance, I feel grateful for my adorable puppy who wags her whole butt at me, my loving and supportive family, and my own strength. Although I have faced tough times in the past, I believe that focusing on the things that lead to a rich and meaningful life, can make all the difference.
"There are so many things in life that make you happy don't focus too much on things that make you sad." www.livelifehappy.com