“We are more than the worst thing that ever happened to us. All of us need to stop apologizing for having been to hell and back and come back breathing.” Clementine von Radics
My son one of my favorite positives in life, enjoying life.
I was looking for a quote for my last blog when I ran across the quote for this week. “We are more than the worst thing that ever happened to us.” Wow, that is so powerful to me. I am a person who defines myself by the worst things that have happened to me, and then I take it one step further and I blame myself for all of them. I blame myself for failing to get well and continuing to live in chronic pain... Some of the worst things that have happened to me are too personal to write here, but you get the gist.
Not only do we need to stop blaming ourselves for everything bad that has happened in our lives, but you also need to stop defining ourselves around it. We need to do the opposite, give ourselves credit for the positive. When I think about the positive things that have happened to me I realize the list is large. I need to focus on that huge list, e.g. I was able to leave the small town I grew up in and was able to attend the college of my dreams. I was supported and encouraged to achieve great things as a child and that helped me achieve my goals in life. I’ve graduated from law school, raised two boys that grew into the most amazing men, been married to the love of my life for over 30 years. I have people who love me and care about me. I live in a safe neighborhood with great neighbors I could go on and on but eventually, this blog needs to come to an end. The point is that I need to also define myself by my list of positives. It is only then that I will be able to see my life clearly.
Let in the sunshine and have a beautiful life!