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A Chronic Pain Survivor's Journey through Resilience
I find this song lifts me up and reminds me to keep trying. I just ignore the lost love part and apply it to chronic pain.
Resiliency offers anyone skills to improve their quality of life.
Resiliency is not merely positive thinking, it is active thinking, productive thinking. You acknowledge the problem and are given a set of tools to move forward.
Simply Resilient
"Life is tough my darling but so are you."
Self-Compassion
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” Dalai Lama Compassion plays a crucial role in...
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May 22, 2023
You Magnify What You Focus On
"Always remember your focus determines your reality." George Lucas We can’t control what happens to us but we can choose and control what...
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May 12, 2023
Learn to Lose the Perfectionism
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it’s the courage to continue that counts.” Winston Churchill Perfection plagues me. It has...
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Apr 24, 2023
What You Focus On Becomes Your World
"Staying positive does not mean that things will turn out okay. Rather it is knowing that you will be okay no matter how things turn...
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Apr 18, 2023
Try a Positive Activation and Grow Your World
"If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again." Flavia...
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Sep 1, 2022
Look At The Stars
"We are all in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars." Oscar Wilde Our beloved best friend and yellow lab died recently. She...
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Aug 23, 2022
Peace Is Every Step
“Every day brings a choice to practice stress or practice peace!” I had an appointment for a two-hour root canal procedure today. Of...
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Apr 21, 2021
Take Time For Gratitude
“Gratitude is one of the most powerful human emotions. Once expressed, it changes attitude, brightens outlook and broadens our...
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Feb 5, 2021
“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and to give your whole heart and soul to it.” Buddha
My youngest son is home visiting from medical school. He’s shared many interesting stories from his classes and tales about trying to...
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Jan 12, 2021
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Jan 11, 2021
Be Thankful For Your Strengths
“Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Focus on your character, not your reputation. Focus on your blessings, not your...
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Dec 8, 2020
Our Thoughts Determine Our Reality
“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” Dale...
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Nov 18, 2020
Celebrate
"Life should not only be lived it should be celebrated." Osho I had much to celebrate this weekend when my oldest son was married to a...
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Nov 5, 2020
Cultivate Acceptance
"Happiness can only exist in acceptance." To cultivate acceptance, instead of thinking about parts of us as broken that need to be fixed...
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Oct 27, 2020
Practice Peace
“Every day brings a choice to practice stress or practice peace!” My husband enjoying the peace I had an appointment for a two-hour root...
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Oct 13, 2020
We Are More Than The Worst That Has Happened To Us
“We are more than the worst thing that ever happened to us. All of us need to stop apologizing for having been to hell and back and come...
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Sep 13, 2020
3 Secrets of Resilient People
“From the ashes a fire shall be woken, a light from the shadow shall spring.” J.R.R. Tolkein Today was lovely and wonderful. Fall weather...
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Aug 30, 2020
Look At The Stars
“We are all in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars.” Oscar Wilde Suffering is not selective everyone experiences it at...
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Jul 2, 2020
Anxiety Nothing More Than Failure In Advance
“Anxiety is nothing more than repeatedly re-experiencing failure in advance. What a waste.” Seth Godin For the past week, I’ve been...
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Mar 10, 2020
Be Kind Always
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Plato Somebody shamed me today for a mistake I made. I tried to tell myself...
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Feb 27, 2020
I've Got A Dream
“If you can dream it, you can do it.” Walt Disney I may have been an unusual child. I grew up in a trailer park, spending much of my time...
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Feb 5, 2020
Gratitude Is Golden
“Gratitude is not only the greatest of all virtues, but the parent of all others.” Marcus Tullius Cicero I had a chance to experience...
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Jan 28, 2020
Don't Compare Yourself To Others
“Every minute you spend wishing you had someone else’s life is a minute you spend wasting yours.” It’s time for the Superbowl again. My...
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Jan 21, 2020
Joy
"Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to chose joy and keep chosing it everyday." Henri J.M. Nouwen What a wonderful holiday season!...
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Jan 7, 2020
What Are Your Core Values?
“Your core values are your deeply held beliefs that authentically describe your soul.” John C. Maxwell We all know that our path through...
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Dec 17, 2019
You Can Be Brave!
“Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do when they settle in your skin. Sometimes a shadow wins. I wonder what would happen if you...
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Dec 8, 2019
Be Thankful For What You Have
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”...
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Dec 3, 2019
You Have The Power
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and...
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Nov 24, 2019
How Do I Handle Suffering?
“And life taught me before helping others you’ve got to help yourself first.” - Roma Sarkar I was recently asked by a friend how I handle...
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Nov 17, 2019
There Is Courage Even In The Small Things
“All you need is a plan, a road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.” Earl Nightingale Courage happens anytime you face...
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Nov 13, 2019
You Are As Happy As You Want To Be
"Most folks are as happy as they make up there minds to be." Abraham Lincoln I wake up every morning in incredible pain. Everyday, every...
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Nov 13, 2019
What You Focus On Becomes Your Reality
“What you think you become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine you create.” Buddha I’ve had a difficult couple of weeks to put...
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Sep 15, 2019
Don't Add Worry To Your Troubles
“Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you respond to it.” Charles Swindoll Are things not trouble enough in...
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Aug 5, 2019
Attitude Is Everything
“Your mental attitude determines what you make of it, either a stepping stone or stumbling block.” Bruce Lee It was my youngest son’s...
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Aug 1, 2019
Change The Way You React When Afraid
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to...
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Jul 29, 2019
Savoring the Joy
"Find Joy In The Journey" One of my sons got wonderful, joyous news today, and I was one of the lucky people he shared it with. I felt so...
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Jul 22, 2019
Grief
“A true friend leaves paw prints in your heart.” My sixteen year old dachshund Hudson died today. It is so hard to write this because I...
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Jul 15, 2019
Don't Get Caught In A Negative Thinking Trap
"Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat." F. Scott Fitzgerald I woke in the night to excruciating pain! I wanted to scream a...
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Jul 8, 2019
Reduce The Suffering
"The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love, and to be greater than our...
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Jul 1, 2019
Laughter, The Best Medicine
"You cannot ask the darkness to leave, you must turn on the light." Sogyal Rinpoche Last week I was taken down by the flu. When you have...
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Jun 24, 2019
Resiliency Skills Web Site
Please check out my new resiliency skills website. simplyresilient.org
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Jun 21, 2019
Worry is Worthless
"Worry never robs tomorrow of it's sorrow, it only saps today of it's joy." Leo F. Buscaglia Worry has been an ongoing theme in my life. ...
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Jun 17, 2019
You Are Valuable
'You are beautiful, have a day much like yourself." Dayna Lovely There is an importance to feeling loved,alive and beautiful. Every one...
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Jun 10, 2019
Negative Events Aren't Personal, Permanent or Pervasive
"Tough times never last but tough people do." Robert Schuller I've been in a rut. I've felt marred in my pain and in negative events....
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Jun 3, 2019
Don't Focus on what You Lost, Focus on what You Have
"It's not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got." Sheryl Crow I had a wonderful Memorial Day weekend with my hubby. We were...
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May 28, 2019
Smile
"Let Your Smile Change The World But Don't Let The World Change Your Smile." unknown When I am in pain it is hard to put on a smile. When...
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May 24, 2019
Resilience Available to Everyone
"Your destiny is in your hands. Creating the life you want is only, and always, up to you." Darren Johnson I had the most wonderful...
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May 19, 2019
Harder But Better and More Amazing than You Can Imagine
I have two boys in their twenties. I have a front row seat to see that starting out as an adult in the world is a hard scary process....
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May 13, 2019
Let Life Love You Back
"I have found that when you love life, life will love you back." Rubenstein My husband had to travel for work for three days. He...
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May 12, 2019
Heal Yourself
"You need to learn how to heal yourself or you will spend your life bleeding on people who didn't cut you." - unknown author There are so...
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May 8, 2019
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